judmentalism, part 3: the redefinitionDecember 10, 2008
In an effort to turn this whole “audience of one” thing around, I’m gonna keep these posts going.
So, Chili brings up an important point from the last post: there is a difference between being judgmental and making a judgment. She points out that being judgmental is the close-minded, unwilling to investigate side of dealing with people, and making a judgment is simply forming an opinion.
I suppose what I’m going after in all this is that the cultural taboo surrounding being judgmental is…misguided? I still think it is necessary to form quick judgments that are hard-lined and possibly very unyielding for the sake of safety. The idea that one must curb all opinion until facts are known is silly.
For instance, someone comes to me and tells me I did something wrong, say, in the classroom. Hard as it might be, my snap decision will be to dismiss them, and I must not fall to that. I need to assess myself and what happened, and determine if the right course of action was taken. Does that make me judgmental? No. Will I have made a judgment? Yes.
Now, someone approaches me with information regarding “DNA activation.” As far as I know, one’s DNA is not activated, and so I will quickly jump on the button about this being possible new agey BS. I will research this. I will figure out what is being said here. I will also discover that said “activation” centered around the idea of waking the psychic centers of your mind/brain/soul/DNA/inner unicorn. I will still dismiss this as BS and claim my original snap judgments were correct. Will I have made a judgment? Yes. Will I still be called judgmental? Possibly.
So perhaps the accusation of being judgmental is more reflexive than personal. One is determined to be judgmental by other people?